Wednesday, December 20, 2017

Be The Best 'Best Man' You Can Be




Best Man is a weird title. It really should be Best Friend or Best Speaker. The label “Best Man” is really an incredibly high expectation to put on someone's shoulders. Is he the Best Man in this city? In this state? On Earth? And by what criteria are we measuring “Best”? Does that equal the kindest, smartest, best looking, highest achieving and most physically fit? That sounds more like a movie star or celebrity NFL quarterback than anybody who's you r friend and actual wedding Best Man. But that's the title we use and while it's overblown, it does reflect the importance and honor of being chosen for that position.



Besides offering support and aid to the groom on and around the wedding day, the Best Man customarily delivers a speech. Best Man speeches vary, but ideally it should be sharp and powerful. His speech should be intimately personal- within the bounds of acceptability of the crowd- and it should be very funny. Humor is one of the most effective speaking tools in offsetting the potentially over-dramatic and imbalanced tone of a deadly serious speech. Sure, some earnest and poignant passages are always good in a Best Man wedding speech, but the most effective and fun way to honor the groom on his wedding day is to tastefully “roast” him with some punchlines based on the actualities of his life, personality, likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses.




Just ask anyone who's been at a wedding with an hilarious speech, as opposed to a dull speech full of platitudes and surface level generalizations about the person. A Best Man may not be the Best Man on Earth, but with the right funny personalized speech he can be the Funniest, Most Entertaining Man at the wedding. And that's still saying a lot!       

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